A Beautiful, Terrible Thing

A Beautiful, Terrible Thing

A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal

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"Psychopaths are manipulative, remorseless. They feel no guilt. What would happen if you thought you might be married to one? Jen Waite loves her husband. Marco is sexy, funny, her best friend--and he makes her feel like the most important person in the world. When they have their first baby, her life feels perfect. But then, just three weeks later, she accidentally reads an e-mail that she was never supposed to see, and it is as if someone has aimed a wrecking ball at her life. When Marco swears that what she saw was a simple misunderstanding, Jen desperately tries to rebuild trust in her marriage. Instead, she finds more lies, infidelity, and betrayal than she could have imagined. During a time when she should have been enjoying the sweetness of young parenthood, Jen is set adrift, with only her drive to uncover the truth guiding her. She obsessively tries to find a single moment from the past five years of her relationship with Marco to prove she once had something real, that she wasn't crazy. Gradually, her sleuthing and persistent research yield a shocking but ultimately liberating discovery: Marco fits the textbook definition of a psychopath. A memoir of incredible power, A Beautiful, Terrible Thing is a harrowing and inspiring account of a woman who finds strength forged by fire when everything she believed in turns out to be an illusion."--Jacket flap
Publisher: New York, New York : Plume, [2017]
ISBN: 9780525533177
Branch Call Number: BIO Waite, J 2017
Characteristics: 260 pages ; 22 cm


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PimaLib_NormS Mar 21, 2018

Jen Waite has written a beautiful, terrible book entitled, “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing: A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal”. This is a rollercoaster of a book, alternating between a beautiful, head-over-heels, I’ve-found-my-soulmate love story in chapters titled “Before”, and a terrible story of lies, deceit and betrayal in the “After” chapters. In the Befores, the author’s joy just leaps off the page, and it is natural to be happy for her, for them. Then, along comes an After, and one cannot stop wondering why a person would behave so badly toward someone to whom he has expressed his undying, everlasting love. It is important to note that this is only one side of the story. I wonder, what would the husband say in his book? I guess he would attempt to explain it all away, as he tried to do with his wife. However, it does seem clear that he was the one who cheated; therefore, I would be more inclined to believe the cheat-ee rather than the lying, sociopathic cheat-er. Surely, writing this book was a cathartic act for Jen Waite, but opening up one’s life for the world to see and scrutinize and judge, takes uncommon courage and an openness that not many of us have.

Jan 09, 2018

A memoir of incredible power. Its a harrowing and inspiring account of a woman who finds a strength forged by fire when everything she believed in turns out to be an illusion.
How do we really know the ones we love? Sometimes we don't. It's possible to fall in love with evil and can happen to anyone. Be warned, you won't fall asleep until you finish this book.

Nov 21, 2017

I gave a one star rating based on 1/2 star for all the hype about this book and 1/2 star for the cover. I didn't finish it, I tried hard to continue just based on the hype but found it rather immature rather than inspiring. There is another reviewer who made a comment about all the "babe" in the style. I agree - UGH. So after I put it down my next read is already proving to be very exciting and I have a feeling that I'll be posting a positive review once I'm done my next read!

Oct 08, 2017

I must confess, I am not sure how to rate this book. On one side it is certainly an empowering story of overcoming grief and gaining self-confidence. Jen, the author and the narrator, reveals everything about the horrible betrayal of her husband and about how she had to find the strength inside herself to go on and start a new life with her baby daughter. On the other hand, there were some things that bothered me and made the writer somehow lose credibility. For example, there are (too) many references to her daughter Louise, which made the book boring in parts. We read about nursing Lulu, changing Lulu, trying to calm down a perennially screaming Lulu....and that not counting the horror tale of giving birth to Lulu! This is a personal opinion, of course, but I found all these details distracting and, frankly, extremely boring. Then, some points are not clear to me. Jen tells us that she invests her own money in a restaurant that Marco and two friends of his want to open, but Marco is forever working for a boss. So, what happens to The Thirsty Owl? Do they open and own it or not? Finally - and this was what annoyed me most - why doesn't Jen go directly to a divorce lawyer and strips Marco of everything he owns? Towards the end, she talks about a picture of him and his lover on a yacht, so he must have made some money. In an interview that I read, she says that she has sole custody of Lulu, but I would be happier knowing that Marco has been left without a penny. In conclusion, I gave this book 3 out 5 stars. I like the story and that Jen wants to become a therapist, but I wish I had seen her more assertive and angry throughout the book.

Oct 08, 2017

Quick read, not too much detail, not too descriptive. Writing is mediocre, too much use of the word babe, ugh....distracts from the story.

Sep 24, 2017

The author meets and marries a man whom she later, after having a baby, realizes is a sociopath, someone without empathy or conscience, but who is charming and complimentary. Interesting book, well-written, and reminded me of my first husband, who while not as horrible as this guy, was also charming and just the "nicest" person... until we got married. On our first night as a married couple he said to me 'now I can do anything', and he did. Luckily I, like the author, had parents I could rely on who helped me get out before he became worse and who helped me get back on my feet in terms of my emotional well-being as well as my career. This kind of thing can happen to nearly anyone because most of us go through life meeting people with open hearts, without cynicism, and we can all be duped by this type of personality disorder.

Aug 21, 2017

Just finished the book. This book is an excellent look at the male psychopath and how he operates. It is also a candid look in to the personality of the woman who falls in love with him too quickly and then tries to ignore all the signs.

debwalker Jul 12, 2017

What happens when you figure out your husband is a psychopath?


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Jan 09, 2018

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